I read your story and I am sorry that all those terrible things happened to you.  But I am also happy to hear that you have bounced back.  It will take time, and although Soleanna's memory will never be gone, you will love again.  And I hope that you get to feel the pride of fatherhood in your life.  As for the withdrawl from your family, I encourage you to not venture too far from them.  They are on your side.  Don't push them away.
I wish I could give you some advice, all wrapped up in a pretty bow, but I don't know what to say; excpet, I am sorry for your losses, and I hope to hear good news from you soon.